Step One: Be Brave

Stepping into greatness is no small feat.  We live in a world where bravery is in short supply. Fear is at the heart of when we talk ourselves in or out of a decision.  So before we start on the journey to getting lost, we must embrace being brave.  It means facing the question, what if we did the things that scare us? What if we followed our passions?  What if we invested in ourselves in a way that made us embrace all aspects of who we are? Remember The Guide to Get Lost isn’t just about making random decisions but rather letting yourself get lost in the process of living your best life and living closer to your values.

So push yourself and take a few baby steps down this road and be brave.  If you are still reading this and hesitating, remember this fact: If you made it past the age of two, odds are you’ve already experienced painful and uncomfortable moments. Yet here you are reading this.  Here you are, alive to be reading this page.  So I ask again: what if you did the things that scare you?  What is the worst that could happen?

With that in mind, here are some practical ways to build courage:

Shore up your gratitude reserves

Part of being brave is taking stock of your successes.  It means reflecting on the things you are proud of and happy to have in your life. There isn’t a self-care site out there that doesn’t promote keeping a gratitude journal.  There’s a reason for it: living life from a place of gratitude naturally makes you happy; and happiness makes you brave. So why not make today the day you start one? Write 5 things you are grateful for.

Spend 5 mins doing something you love

Another important one. We all lead busy lives, but honestly there is no excuse not to buy out the time to do the things you love.  Even if it’s just 5 minutes!  It can be anything as long as it puts a smile on your face.

An Affirmation a day, keeps the doubt away

Affirmations come in so many rich forms.  For some it can be prayers, poems, lyrics, or more traditional formats.  Start your day repeating at least one affirmation to yourself for 5 minutes 2-3 times a day. To get you started here are a few of my favorites: “I trust myself.” “I am powerful, capable, and energetic.” “I am not afraid to step into my greatness.”“I am more than my mistakes.” I wake up everyday ready to be my best self.”

Create a get “lost” corner

I am obsessed with the concept of space. I think we can’t get enough of it in our lives and in our relationships. Space is a sacred thing. And everyone needs a physical space in their lives to reflect their interests, passions, and loves.  So why not create a “lost” corner? Find a space in your home, apartment, and/or office that is just for you. Maybe its where you keep your yoga mat, or the instrument you play. Maybe it’s filled with pictures of places you’ve been or want to go, craft projects you’ve finished or are still a work-in-progress.  It doesn’t matter what it is. It just matters that there is a physical space in your life that gives you peace.

Surround yourself with bold people

A lot of what may be stopping you from even starting the journey is the company you keep and the voices you listen to. So go out and surround yourself with bold people. People who take the risks that place them closer to living their best lives.

One of the reasons I found it so hard to step out and make big decisions is that at times I surrounded myself with people who lived in a state of anxiety. I had friends or acquaintances who always talked themselves out living bigger and better. I kept company with people that constantly talked down to anyone who tried to do something different. I surrounded myself with men (platonic or otherwise) who were always “afraid” of real relationships, which in turn, quietly took away some of my bravery to find a good partner.   All of this created an environment where I consistently doubted my ability and my strength to step out and live bigger.  So be brave and join a group or an online community of people trying something new or reaching to be the best versions of themselves.If you can’t find a local group why not try some online communities?

How this looks:  When I started down this road I was scared.  And I have to say I pride myself on being pretty fearless, but this was taking a step out into the big beyond. I didn’t know if I had it in me.  I had to practice what I was preaching so I did all of those things. I kept writing, kept hoping, kept doubting, had a mini panic attack once a week, but I did the five things I listed anyway. And…it worked. I’m here. I did it. And you can do it too.  You are capable, you are strong, and you will be ready!  Let’s see what the world has in store for you, together!


  1. Lisa | 27th Jul 17

    This was so inspiring to read. I need these reminders as life has been a whirlwind lately, thanks for urging me to slow down, and get back on a positive path.

  2. Neelie | 27th Jul 17

    Loved this! We could definitely do with more bold people and I think you’re so right when you say we should surround ourselves with bold people. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Lalie | 27th Jul 17

    Being brave and fearless is sometimes hard but surrounding yourself with people who want to do better and actively do makes it easier! Love the post:)

  4. Lalie Jones | 27th Jul 17

    Being brave and fearless is sometimes hard but surrounding yourself with people who want to do better and actively do makes it easier! Love the post:)

  5. Arlene @ From Pennies to Plenty | 28th Jul 17

    Inspiring post! I often have some doubt it my head about things, like if a post is good enough before I push publish or if I’ll be okay traveling some place I’ve never been before. I often find that the anticipation beforehand is more worrying than actually doing it. Im trying to be more courageous in my everyday life. Good for you being brave too!

  6. Alina | 28th Jul 17

    Get lost and…surrender to life! Great post! Thank you for sharing and reminding me that being brave is the new must-have

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